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Professor Carlos waving and Professor Zaide giving a thumbs-up on the front porch of a family home, both animated, in white jiu-jitsu uniforms and black belts.

Professor CarlosHi! Walk with us. We'll show you around.

Free parent guide · 6 printable pages

Raise them
brave & kind.

Calm, practical help from two jiu-jitsu black belts. Start with the question every parent hopes they never have to ask: Start here: is my child being bullied?

Page 1 of the free guide Is My Child Being Bullied?

Is My Child Being Bullied?6 printable pages: the warning signs, five calm things to say tonight, and how to work with the school.

Hosts are animated characters. Narration is AI-generated. The lessons, and the years on the mat behind them, are real.

Scroll to walk down the street: the bus stop check-in is next

A boy sits alone at the end of a bus-stop bench hugging his backpack while three kids chat further down the sidewalk.
Stop 1 · The bus stop

Kids don't always tell us.

Six quick questions. Takes about a minute. Nothing is saved unless you choose to.

Parent check-in · Quiz 1 of 21 of 6

Something feels off. Is it just a bad week?

Professor CarlosTake your time. There are no wrong answers here.

A conversation starter, not a diagnosis. Signs from StopBullying.gov, the CDC and the American Academy of Pediatrics.

A family laughs together around a round dinner table under a warm lamp while the daughter tells a story.
Stop 2 · The dinner table
Do it together · Quiz 2 of 21 of 5

What would a black belt do?

Professor ZaidePick a calm moment: a car ride, a walk, or bedtime.

For a grown-up and a kid together. Nothing is saved or sent: no names, no typing.

A girl with an orange belt leads a warm-up of jumping jacks while younger kids copy her and Professor Zaide watches proudly.

Professor ZaideGive her the count, then step back.

Stop 3 · The mat

She counts.
They follow.

Professor Zaide's series for parents of daughters: how training, struggle and being taken seriously help girls speak up, set boundaries and lead.

Raising confident girlsA new series with Professor Zaide · coming soon on YouTube
Finding her voiceBoundariesLeading the room
A parent and child walk hand in hand up the path to a sunny training hall with its doors wide open.
Stop 4 · The training-hall door

Come on in.
Bring a grown-up.

Short, calm lessons for parents and kids about bullying, respect and confidence, one video at a time. Watch together, then talk about it at dinner.

Subscribe to @RaisingBlackBeltsShort, calm lessons for parents and kids. New videos are on the way.

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Professor Carlos, hand on heart, and Professor Zaide, waving, stand on the blue mats of a bright training hall.

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Meet your hosts

Two black belts
next door.

Professor Carlos Miller

4th-degree jiu-jitsu black belt

Carlos has trained in martial arts for 29 years and coached for 21. He has run his own academy since 2007. He has watched many shy, worried and bullied kids learn to stand tall, and he talks to parents the way he would at the edge of the mat: straight, calm and practical.

Professor Zaide

Jiu-jitsu black belt

Zaide coaches kids and women on the mat and leads our series on raising confident girls. Her focus: helping girls find their voice, hold their ground with calm and respect, and grow into young women who lead.

Hosts are animated characters. Narration is AI-generated. The lessons and the experience behind them are Carlos and Zaide's.

Professor Carlos and Professor Zaide sit on the front steps of the family home at dusk with the porch light on.
Stop 5 · Back home, porch light on

Five calm things to say tonight.

  1. The side door. "What do you think that kid in the show should have done?"
  2. "I noticed." "You haven't wanted to take the bus this week. You're not in trouble."
  3. When they tell you. "Thank you for telling me. This is not your fault."
  4. Getting the story. "Can you tell me more? What was that like for you?"
  5. Making a plan. "What would help you feel safer tomorrow?"

The full scripts, what not to say, and a printable school log are in the free guide.